ARe You a Ride or Die Chick?

What is a Ride or Die Chick?  According to the Urban Dictionary,  she is, "A chick that ain't afraid to be down with her man,  she'll do anything her man needs her to do. Ride or die chick' refers to someone who (normally a girl, hence the word chick) is down for everything & anything.  Basically down for both the bad and the good. A female who is willing to stick with you even if death is the ultimate fate of their relationship."

Not that's what I call a woman who is committed to the end. I'm not sure if I am willing to be down for anything, but I  know for a fact that I am down for everything that God has called me to do. 

I have joked about me being a "ride or die chick" in terms of my commitment to my friendships,  to my work and even my relationship with God.  But on a serious note, I believe in my heart that's exactly who I aim to be.

Our young people use this term loosely when they are talking the "Jargon" to each other in expressing their commitment and love to each other and the girls to their men.  While the term has been used as gang jargon to talk about negative things, I believe we can learn a little something from concept of  this uncanny phrase. 

Are you a "ride or die chick" when it comes to your commitment to your family, your friendships, your work,  your purpose in life and to your relationship with God?

There was a line in the movie "A Few Good Men" spoken by Jack Nicholas that said, "We use words like honor, code, loyalty...we use these words as the backbone to a life spent defending something. You use 'em as a punchline."

Sometimes this rings true when we tell ourselves and each other that we are committed to our true purpose of making a difference in the world, to standing up for injustice, to protecting our children, to protecting the truth of who God is. Yet, often times we falter and get side tracked when trouble arrives.

But that's not the truth of who we are. As women, as mothers of the world, we know how to stand in the face of the fear to protect what belongs to us. It's in our DNA and that's who we are. Courageous, Honorable and Loyal. Even when trouble appears.

I want to encourage you to stand in your power and begin to align yourself with your true essence. Begin to allow your actions to match your words. 

If there is a gap between what you are saying and what you are actually doing?  Then an intervention needs to take place in your life quickly.

There was a time when I would sit and talk about all the wonderful ideas I was going to make happen and how I was going to do this, and do that and at the end of the day it was just "talk." I needed an intervention and I got the help I needed. I wanted my words to match my actions.  No! I NEEDED my words to match my actions.

People begin to lose confidence in what you say when you are constantly making promises and predictions, yet they see nothing happen. And the most dangerous thing that happens is that you are teaching your subconscious to believe that you are a liar. And that's not who you really are.

We've got to become like the "ride or die chicks" and begin to commit to the things that are important in life...the things that will help to make the our own lives and the lives of others richer and better. The things that will bring change and transformation to a world that so desperately needs it. To demonstrate to our children that "real ride or die chicks" stand for what's right, what's good, what's expansive and loving. To stop playing small and dimming down to living our lives in full blast, full voice while becoming one with God and loyal to each other.

I believe that's God's way. I believe that's Love's way. 

So if you ask me if I am a "ride or die chick?" The answer is "Yes!" I am committed to the end...to that which I know God has called me to do.  What about you? 

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You Were Already Enough

As women we tend to base our worth on what we do instead of who we are. I know this first hand. I use to be a pleaser. If I thought someone was upset with me, I would do something nice for them or I would call them on the phone to talk just to see if I could tell from their voice tone if something wrong.

I worried about whether I did enough of the right things or if I said something the wrong way. I could feel the tension in my stomach, but once I found out everything was okay or I did enough to earn their attention once more, I could feel the tension ease.

What a roller coaster ride my life had become?  Always trying to gauge the situation to be sure that I did the right things, that I didn’t do anything wrong or didn’t ruffled anyone’s feathers. I needed everyone to like me, to be nice to me, to accept me and to love me.   Then one day I realized that the very thing  I was looking to someone else to do for me, had already been done for me.

God loved me from the very beginning. I didn’t need to earn this love or work for it, it was mine because it was the stuff that created me. Love is who I am. It’s the stuff I am made from.  God accepted me, even with all of my flaws and imperfections. I never have to check to see if what I did was  acceptable or if I was lovable. The mere fact that I exist was all that was required.  I call this the “Papilio Effect”…your defining moment is when you are willing to let go of who you are not, step into your most powerful space and become who you were born to be.”  Love is who I am and I realized that who I am is really enough.

I am no longer a performance based person; my worth is no longer based on what I do, but on WHO I am. And so it is with you.

Oriah Mountain Dreamer says “Who you really are is enough.”

Moving into such total acceptance does not mean that we stop growing. When we can accept who we are now, we open the doors to our own inspiration to be even more! You are complete in Love!!

Live Authentically, Laugh Everyday and Embrace Love as a Lifestyle.

Let us hear your “I’m Enough Story” Below…please share with us!