Did You Know...?

Girls who grow up with an unavailable, unattached or absent father is a fatherless daughter. This one missing element in a girl's life while growing up can have grave consequences when she reaches womanhood. 

Her sense of self will be tainted, her self confidence warped or non-existent, her portrait of a loving relationship may be distorted or dysfunctional and her ability to really succeed in money matters becomes an issue. In other words, she struggles in her relationship with love and her relationship with money. Because both of these are tied into her self worth and value. Many fatherless daughters can earn great money, even 6 & 7 figures, but still find themselves broke or in debt or both. She can find love, but have a difficult time maintaining harmony in the relationship. 

Her children finds it difficult to please her or she maybe over protective, smothering them. She can be DRIVEN by success because of an inner need to be the BEST...which is always admirable...but the fuel source behind it for a fatherless daughter can be dangerous. She has this empty hole that cannot be filled, always trying to be more and do more. She hears from those who love her phrases such as "no matter what I do, it's never enough." No can seem to get it right or make her happy. 

That's because being fatherless has left a hole in her soul that will never be filled until she confronts and deals with her fatherless daughter issues. She must be warned, this process is NOT a simple weekend project. It must be ongoing process until it must become second nature. 

My Fatherless Daughter Breakthrough Private Coaching program is designed to help you move beyond your daddy wounds. This process will not be easy, but it is simple and I will be there with along the way. And it will pave the road to finding inner self confidence and love for oneself, which will in turn led to the abolishment of the need for finding these things in another. 

This is one of the roads to inner freedom! Email me your name, phone and best time to contact you. info@thelovelifestylecoach.com and let's move your life forward....Much love, Angela

Are You Ready to Show Up?

Can you believe that we are getting ready for the holiday season? It feels as if we've just completed the summer. If you are like most women, you are wondering where did the time go? I've asked myself that same question. This is also the time of the year where I reflect back to see if I've accomplished the things I said that I would this year. In most cases when I do this, I discover that I didn't reach all of my goals. But I also recognize that there's still time to finish strong. Not in some hustle bustle, nose to the grind kind of way. That way of being simply does not align with the feminine energy of women. 

As women, when we go after our dreams with this kind of "take the bull by the horns" energy, we short circuit our energy field. And as a result, we are left feeling overworked, overwhelmed and in many cases overlooked. Because when your energy field is short circuited....that's like NOT showing up in life at all. And when this happens, our dreams are once again delayed. 

 Yet, one thing I've learned is that "delay does not mean denial." You truly deserve to have your dreams fulfilled and realized. You are already encoded for everything you want at your deepest level. As a divine, vibrational being, nothing can limit you. There's nothing wrong with you. 

You are not broken, you are perfect and loved just the way you are. And no matter what you are going through, it is in divine order and it's only your perception that says otherwise. It's time to get rid of our reasons and our justifications for why we show up less than our divine, magnificent and radiant selves. 

It's your time to shine! So shine my sister...show up and shine!

Oprah, Iyanla and TD Jakes Talked About It...Now Taylore Has Something to Share...

A Gentle Soul…RIP

I am sure most of you have heard about the tragedy of former Disney Star and Co-Star of Rizzoli and Isles, Lee Thompson Young. Last week this sweet young man died from a self inflicted gun shot wound. What most of you don’t know is that I started this young man in the entertainment business. As you know for over 23 years I was in the entertainment industry as an agent/manager as well as owned a performing arts center.

 

One day, this handsome young man walked into my office when he was 11 years old. He grabbed my hand, kissed it and then flipped out a business card that read “Lee Thompson Young, Actor.” At that time Lee had only done 2 local plays. But what I said to him on that day became true. I said, “I’m going to make you a STAR.”  Within a year and a half of that day, he was starring in his own show on the Disney Channel, “The Famous Jett Jackson.”

 

Over the years, this young boy has had a wonderful and successful career as an actor. But what most folks don’t know is that he was a very gentle and loving soul. Lee discovered his purpose early in life and he went after it with such ease and grace because he knew that it was his assignment. 

 

His family has asked that I help prepare his hometown memorial and I can tell you it has been both an honor and yet a painful experience. But what gives me joy and comfort is I’ve learned so much from this young man about living your dreams now.

 

While he was only 29 years old at his passing, he has done more in those short years than many people will do in 60 years. As I reflect upon his journey I  realized that he followed the three steps that I teach for success.

 

1. Spirituality- Lee had a deep, abiding relationship with God. He exhibited that divinity everywhere he went because of the love he embodied. His love for his family, his friends and all people was just incredible. He always had something good to say…never negative even when things didn’t good promising to him. He always saw God in all that he did. His spiritual life was priority for him. That’s why you never saw him do any work that didn’t reflect how he lived his life.

 

2. Strategies-Lee was always a life student. He wanted to know how to live in the present. He wanted to know how to live a deep spiritual life and he would seek out new ways of being, new skill sets and new strategies for his life.  He kept great coaches and mentors in his life to help direct and guide him through his journey.

 

3. Supporting Cast-There’s a saying that you are the sum total of the 5 people you spend your most time with. For Lee, the people he spent his most time with were brilliant and wonderful people. He made sure his supporting cast were people he could grow and expand with. He also kept close contact with his family and remained connected to them.

 

I will miss this young man and I would be lying if I said that I was not hurting,  because I am. But this is not about me, it’s about a young man who knew his purpose and had the courage to live it. My question to you is, “What about you?  Will you die with your dream inside of you, or  are you wiling to live your dream now?” Perhaps you don’t know what that dream is. If this is true, then it’s time to find out by connecting with someone who can help you discover the answers. As your Love Lifestyle Coach, I can help you do just that. If not me, then find someone because it’s time to live your dreams NOW!

What Were Your Daddy's Love Patterns?

On the topic of fatherless daughters...perhaps your dad was there...but what were his love patterns?...those patterns can have an impact on girl's life when she reaches adulthood...

These are the 5 Daddy Archetypes found in my program:

Disapproving Dad...there's nothing you could ever do to get his full approval. He always required more from you...he sets the bar high...but doesn't take the time to notice "you" instead of your accomplishments...or perhaps he wanted a boy instead...and it shows...

Impact on Daughter-- this keeps you always seeking approval and never feeling good enough...always trying to be better...you become uptight, overly ambitious and competitive.

Disabled Dad...mental/physical illness, drugs/alcohol, abusive, anger...these things will prevent him from creating a closeness with his daughter...or maybe he's a passive father...doesn't get involved...let's mom handle everything.

Impact on Daughter--this creates a lot of anger in you because of your disappointment...keeps you in a space of shame, insecurity, hiding and distrust...very difficult for you to create close intimate relationships...you even try to become someone you are not...because of the insecurity and shame...you have no real sense of identity.

Dictator Father...it's like living with a military drill sergeant, a whole lot of rules..but no real relationships...religion legalism and tight boundaries...feels like no oxygen in the home...

Impact on Daughter--you grow up to become distant and resentful. You will often times be perceived as cold, unfeeling, angry and focused only on the task at hand instead of people... disconnected from your heart space.

Distant Father...physically or emotionally...unattached and not able to form close bond with daughter...works all the time...can be in the room with you and even involved in activities...but not emotionally connected to anyone...because his focused is always on something else...or he's simply disconnected.

Impact on Daughter--you feel invisible and unworthy...you may try hard to get attention from men...even giving of yourself in ways that do not serve you because you want to be seen and validated.

Doting Father...shows excessive fondness and love for his daughter. She can do no wrong and he's always giving her money and buying her things. She has become more of trophy, something he can show off...yet he really does love her. Through his spoiling her, he has missed some valuable things...such as life lessons of consideration of others, kindness, compassion for others and generosity. He gets the love part, but missed the parent piece in the relationship.

Impact on Daughter--you begin to think that all relationships are this way. You translate gifts and letting you have your way as real love. You become selfish, self centered, spoiled, needy and incapable of seeing the other's person's needs and point of view. You become a taker in the relationship and this leads to you playing the victim in most cases. 

Fathers be sure to check your love patterns when it come to your daughters...

But the good news...it doesn't have to remain this way.....you can learn new patterns and new ways of being with your daughter that will validate her very existence! 

Oprah Winfrey Takes The Issue of Fatherless Daughters Global and Angela Wants to Continue The Conversation

Much has been written and spoken on the subject of boys growing up without their fathers and the negative impact this missing key element has on their lives as they reach adulthood. We’ve read numerous studies that offer alarming statistics of our prisons being filled with men who grew up without their fathers. There are numerous of programs, discussions and books on this alarming topic of fatherless sons.

Yet, little has been brought to the forefront of our attention when it comes to fatherless daughters. Until now!! On July 14th and July 21st, Oprah Winfrey and Iyanla Vanzant will host a 2-Part Life Class on the OWN Network entitled, “Daddyless Daughters.” The effects on a girl’s life who grows up with an unavailable, unattached or absent father can be catastrophic.

An adult woman who did not have the validation, love and support of an attentive and loving father will experience many devastating issues in life from relationships problems, money issues, career and health problems. As The Love Lifestyle Coach and author of “I’m Not That Woman…A Fatherless Daughter’s Journey to Being,” I have been speaking and coaching fatherless daughters for years through my Fatherless Daughters Breakthrough Program.

I am delighted that the OWN Network is bringing this topic onto a global platform and I had a chance to view the taping of the shows via online. We cannot solve these issues in two television shows, but now we can get the conversation started.

That’s why I am hosting a series of online and live events, starting with a FREE live event,“Fatherless Daughters Shares Their Heart Secrets…The Conversation Continues” on Tuesday, July 23rd, 7PM at The Comfort Suites Hotel, 1540 Daulton Drive, Columbia, SC. To attend this event RSVP Here…

Why They Said I Would Fail

I remember a few years ago, I was at a women’s business conference hosted my one of my coaches. When she introduced me, she said “Angela has a SOFT Niche.” What she was basically saying is that I didnt’ talk a lot about making money, getting clients, marketing or all of the stuff that your inbox gets saturated with.

I was merely teaching women how to actualize the power of self love to create success in their lives. I was doing this when “selling self love” was not popular. Fast forward to now, everyone is talking about self love, universal love, inspiration, expansion and all the “woo woo” stuff I was accused of teaching.  It’s popular because collectively, we’ve come to realize that nothing permanent can happen outside of ourselves until it happens within us.  And that love is the answer to every single question in life.

Everywhere you look business coaches are now starting to realize that this “woo woo” stuff works…that spirituality and love are the keys to unlocking real success in  your life and business. I had a coach tell me that what I was offering wasn’t tangible enough. That if I didn’t change it, I would fail. She was obviously the wrong coach for me and she was wrong period. I have literally share with thousands the principles of The Love Lifestyle Coaching System and many of them have had incredible success stories.

That’s why you need a coach who has her finger on the pulse of what’s happening long before the masses get it.  Because by the time the masses gets hold to it, you will be left behind. You want to pioneer a movement, not come in on the tail in. You need a leader who has insight and understand the times in which we now live. It’s time to stop jumping on the band wagon of the next new fad or following the masses because you will get left behind.  

When we find ourselves at a crossroad or in a crisis, to move forward, the challenge is the let go of an outmoded attitude, or idea or perception. Individually or collectively,  a shift has to take place, a tipping point is reached, then the phenomenon of “There’s nothing so powerful as an idea whose time has come, kicks in.

The time has come for LOVE to kick in. The time has come to know that everything is spiritual. Even money!  I knew it years ago when others said that I would fail if I kept trying to coach women on love…that I needed to coach them on making money.  But how could you teach money without love? The two are tied together, because how we do love is how we do money! Ha ha, the masses finally got what we always knew! I love it!

Remember, live authentically, laugh everyday and embrace love as a lifestyle. Because success in life really does begin with love!

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