This Issue of Fatherless Daughters!

Let's face it! Being a Fatherless Daughter is no walk in the park. It takes a lot work to move beyond the pain and heart ache of having an unavailable, unattached or absent dad while growing up. But what's even worst is that you don't really understand the tremendous impact of fatherlessness until we reach adulthood. 

That's when the real issues begin to surface and show up in our relationships, our finances, our bodies and our careers. The good news is that women are starting to heal their daddy wounds. They are beginning to understand that their fatherlessness was not their fault, it was just their injury. And we all know that injuries do heal. 

 I've prepared a short video that I feel maybe of great interest to you. Would take a moment to watch it and then let me know what you think of it? Just simply click here to watch the video... Much Love, Angela

It's Time to Dream Again

What we see is not necessarily what really is. For most women, our lives do not reflect who we really are. Many of us are living life “as it comes” when in reality, we should be living our dreams. Our lives don’t reflect who we truly are or what we can be.

As I travel and meet women I encounter those who have no sense of personal purpose. I see them struggling with aimless or misdirected lives. This has become an epidemic among women. Yet, there’s so much hidden inside of each of waiting to be revealed. Les Brown says, “there’s greatness inside of each of us.” I believe there are dreams inside of you. 

The dream you have or once had for your life that is not yet a reality, the gifts and talents you have not yet developed, the purpose for your life that is not yet fulfilled, the “something” you’ve always wanted to be or do but for some reason have not been able to accomplish. No matter who you are or where you are from, or who your parents were…every woman is born with a DREAM! 

God created each of us with a unique vision and dream for our life. He has tremendous plans for you that no one else can accomplish. The tragic things is that many women live their entire lives without ever recognizing and actualizing their dreams. How do you remove the blinders and barriers to uncover the dream within you? Helping people capture and fulfill their dreams has been the cornerstone of my business for almost thirty years. From entertainers, celebrities, entrepreneurs, speakers, and even stay at home moms, I have spent countless hours as a “dream-maker.” I want to do the same for you. 

What does it mean to capture the dream for your life? There was a story about a little girl who was on a cruise ship with her dad. They were standing on the back deck on a beautiful, clear, fresh day. The little girl was standing on her tiptoe to see and finally said to her dad, “I can’t see anything.” The father picked her up and put her on his shoulders, so that she was higher than anyone else on the deck and was able to see everything around her. “Daddy!” she exclaimed. “I can see farther than my eyes can look.” This little girl’s statement captures the essence of dreams: the ability to see farther than your physical eyes can look–to see not just what is, but also what can be and to make it a reality. Dreams are an idea that is inspired by God in the heart of a human. 

The greatest gift God has given you is a DREAM. Throughout history, progress has been made only by people who have seen things that were not there. They had a vision of what could be. They dared to dream. If by now you are starting to feel something stir inside of you. If by now these words are beginning to resonate somewhere deep inside of you, then it’s time for you to dream again. It’s time to awaken the dream within you. 

 I want to speak with you and ask you 5 Questions. Only 5 Questions to help you begin to capture your dream. Simply email me at info@thelovelifestylecoach.com , your name, contact info, your time zone and the best time to call. Let’s start you back to dreaming again and change the world.

Did You Know...?

Girls who grow up with an unavailable, unattached or absent father is a fatherless daughter. This one missing element in a girl's life while growing up can have grave consequences when she reaches womanhood. 

Her sense of self will be tainted, her self confidence warped or non-existent, her portrait of a loving relationship may be distorted or dysfunctional and her ability to really succeed in money matters becomes an issue. In other words, she struggles in her relationship with love and her relationship with money. Because both of these are tied into her self worth and value. Many fatherless daughters can earn great money, even 6 & 7 figures, but still find themselves broke or in debt or both. She can find love, but have a difficult time maintaining harmony in the relationship. 

Her children finds it difficult to please her or she maybe over protective, smothering them. She can be DRIVEN by success because of an inner need to be the BEST...which is always admirable...but the fuel source behind it for a fatherless daughter can be dangerous. She has this empty hole that cannot be filled, always trying to be more and do more. She hears from those who love her phrases such as "no matter what I do, it's never enough." No can seem to get it right or make her happy. 

That's because being fatherless has left a hole in her soul that will never be filled until she confronts and deals with her fatherless daughter issues. She must be warned, this process is NOT a simple weekend project. It must be ongoing process until it must become second nature. 

My Fatherless Daughter Breakthrough Private Coaching program is designed to help you move beyond your daddy wounds. This process will not be easy, but it is simple and I will be there with along the way. And it will pave the road to finding inner self confidence and love for oneself, which will in turn led to the abolishment of the need for finding these things in another. 

This is one of the roads to inner freedom! Email me your name, phone and best time to contact you. info@thelovelifestylecoach.com and let's move your life forward....Much love, Angela

Are You Ready to Show Up?

Can you believe that we are getting ready for the holiday season? It feels as if we've just completed the summer. If you are like most women, you are wondering where did the time go? I've asked myself that same question. This is also the time of the year where I reflect back to see if I've accomplished the things I said that I would this year. In most cases when I do this, I discover that I didn't reach all of my goals. But I also recognize that there's still time to finish strong. Not in some hustle bustle, nose to the grind kind of way. That way of being simply does not align with the feminine energy of women. 

As women, when we go after our dreams with this kind of "take the bull by the horns" energy, we short circuit our energy field. And as a result, we are left feeling overworked, overwhelmed and in many cases overlooked. Because when your energy field is short circuited....that's like NOT showing up in life at all. And when this happens, our dreams are once again delayed. 

 Yet, one thing I've learned is that "delay does not mean denial." You truly deserve to have your dreams fulfilled and realized. You are already encoded for everything you want at your deepest level. As a divine, vibrational being, nothing can limit you. There's nothing wrong with you. 

You are not broken, you are perfect and loved just the way you are. And no matter what you are going through, it is in divine order and it's only your perception that says otherwise. It's time to get rid of our reasons and our justifications for why we show up less than our divine, magnificent and radiant selves. 

It's your time to shine! So shine my sister...show up and shine!

Oprah, Iyanla and TD Jakes Talked About It...Now Taylore Has Something to Share...

A Gentle Soul…RIP

I am sure most of you have heard about the tragedy of former Disney Star and Co-Star of Rizzoli and Isles, Lee Thompson Young. Last week this sweet young man died from a self inflicted gun shot wound. What most of you don’t know is that I started this young man in the entertainment business. As you know for over 23 years I was in the entertainment industry as an agent/manager as well as owned a performing arts center.

 

One day, this handsome young man walked into my office when he was 11 years old. He grabbed my hand, kissed it and then flipped out a business card that read “Lee Thompson Young, Actor.” At that time Lee had only done 2 local plays. But what I said to him on that day became true. I said, “I’m going to make you a STAR.”  Within a year and a half of that day, he was starring in his own show on the Disney Channel, “The Famous Jett Jackson.”

 

Over the years, this young boy has had a wonderful and successful career as an actor. But what most folks don’t know is that he was a very gentle and loving soul. Lee discovered his purpose early in life and he went after it with such ease and grace because he knew that it was his assignment. 

 

His family has asked that I help prepare his hometown memorial and I can tell you it has been both an honor and yet a painful experience. But what gives me joy and comfort is I’ve learned so much from this young man about living your dreams now.

 

While he was only 29 years old at his passing, he has done more in those short years than many people will do in 60 years. As I reflect upon his journey I  realized that he followed the three steps that I teach for success.

 

1. Spirituality- Lee had a deep, abiding relationship with God. He exhibited that divinity everywhere he went because of the love he embodied. His love for his family, his friends and all people was just incredible. He always had something good to say…never negative even when things didn’t good promising to him. He always saw God in all that he did. His spiritual life was priority for him. That’s why you never saw him do any work that didn’t reflect how he lived his life.

 

2. Strategies-Lee was always a life student. He wanted to know how to live in the present. He wanted to know how to live a deep spiritual life and he would seek out new ways of being, new skill sets and new strategies for his life.  He kept great coaches and mentors in his life to help direct and guide him through his journey.

 

3. Supporting Cast-There’s a saying that you are the sum total of the 5 people you spend your most time with. For Lee, the people he spent his most time with were brilliant and wonderful people. He made sure his supporting cast were people he could grow and expand with. He also kept close contact with his family and remained connected to them.

 

I will miss this young man and I would be lying if I said that I was not hurting,  because I am. But this is not about me, it’s about a young man who knew his purpose and had the courage to live it. My question to you is, “What about you?  Will you die with your dream inside of you, or  are you wiling to live your dream now?” Perhaps you don’t know what that dream is. If this is true, then it’s time to find out by connecting with someone who can help you discover the answers. As your Love Lifestyle Coach, I can help you do just that. If not me, then find someone because it’s time to live your dreams NOW!

What Were Your Daddy's Love Patterns?

On the topic of fatherless daughters...perhaps your dad was there...but what were his love patterns?...those patterns can have an impact on girl's life when she reaches adulthood...

These are the 5 Daddy Archetypes found in my program:

Disapproving Dad...there's nothing you could ever do to get his full approval. He always required more from you...he sets the bar high...but doesn't take the time to notice "you" instead of your accomplishments...or perhaps he wanted a boy instead...and it shows...

Impact on Daughter-- this keeps you always seeking approval and never feeling good enough...always trying to be better...you become uptight, overly ambitious and competitive.

Disabled Dad...mental/physical illness, drugs/alcohol, abusive, anger...these things will prevent him from creating a closeness with his daughter...or maybe he's a passive father...doesn't get involved...let's mom handle everything.

Impact on Daughter--this creates a lot of anger in you because of your disappointment...keeps you in a space of shame, insecurity, hiding and distrust...very difficult for you to create close intimate relationships...you even try to become someone you are not...because of the insecurity and shame...you have no real sense of identity.

Dictator Father...it's like living with a military drill sergeant, a whole lot of rules..but no real relationships...religion legalism and tight boundaries...feels like no oxygen in the home...

Impact on Daughter--you grow up to become distant and resentful. You will often times be perceived as cold, unfeeling, angry and focused only on the task at hand instead of people... disconnected from your heart space.

Distant Father...physically or emotionally...unattached and not able to form close bond with daughter...works all the time...can be in the room with you and even involved in activities...but not emotionally connected to anyone...because his focused is always on something else...or he's simply disconnected.

Impact on Daughter--you feel invisible and unworthy...you may try hard to get attention from men...even giving of yourself in ways that do not serve you because you want to be seen and validated.

Doting Father...shows excessive fondness and love for his daughter. She can do no wrong and he's always giving her money and buying her things. She has become more of trophy, something he can show off...yet he really does love her. Through his spoiling her, he has missed some valuable things...such as life lessons of consideration of others, kindness, compassion for others and generosity. He gets the love part, but missed the parent piece in the relationship.

Impact on Daughter--you begin to think that all relationships are this way. You translate gifts and letting you have your way as real love. You become selfish, self centered, spoiled, needy and incapable of seeing the other's person's needs and point of view. You become a taker in the relationship and this leads to you playing the victim in most cases. 

Fathers be sure to check your love patterns when it come to your daughters...

But the good news...it doesn't have to remain this way.....you can learn new patterns and new ways of being with your daughter that will validate her very existence!