Fatherless Daughters Are Now Ready To Tell Their Stories.

Oprah Winfrey and Iyanla Vanzant did an Expose’ on Daddyless Daughters on the OWN network last year in July. Since that time, much as been written and spoken about the impact on a girl’s life when she grows up fatherless. We’ve been inundated with theories, studies and researches that show the many negative consequences on a girl growing up without an attentive, loving father. 

New books are on the rise, television shows are being created and even the bloggers are hopping on the band wagon to talk about fatherless daughters. “It’s as if we have become some sort of phenomenon,” say’s Angela Carr Patterson, Author of the highly acclaimed book, “I’m Not That Woman...A Fatherless Daughter’s Journey to Being” and creator of the soon to be released documentary, “The Making of a Fatherless Daughter.” 

Patterson continues to say, “Everyone is trying to tell our stories, but we are the ones who lived it. I think it’s about time that we had our say and tell our own stories, in our own unique way.” 

With the success of her book, Angela has traveled speaking to women who grew up with an unattached, unavailable or absent father. Through her “Fatherless Daughter Breakthrough System”, she has helped women from around the world heal their daddy wounds through the principles of Love, Acceptance and Forgiveness. Understanding the depth of this pain and the many severe consequences experienced by females once they reach adulthood, Angela is on a mission to help women heal and create a new story for their lives. 

As a third generation fatherless daughter herself, Angela knows first hand what it feels like to be invisible to your father while growing up. And as a result of this one key missing element in her life, she certainly struggled to make her life work. After her first marriage of sixteen years ended in a bitter divorce, Angela began what she calls her, “Journey to Being.” The “Journey to Being” process consist of seven principles that she incorporated in her life to help her move through her pain to healing her daddy wounds and to now living a life of love, acceptance and forgiveness. 

The founder of The Fatherless Daughter Network and a Fatherless Daughter Advocate, Angela is thrilled to introduce her new soon to be released documentary, “The Making of a Fatherless Daughter.” This powerful and sensitive short film features the stories of five women who grew up as fatherless daughters. Two of the women fathers were in the home and viewers will learn why they still considered themselves fatherless daughters. The stories are told with transparency, honesty, a lot of raw emotions and more importantly with an intense amount of forgiveness and love. “The women in this film placed it all there for us to see. They were authentic, real and transparent”, says Angela. Angela continues on by saying, “It’s time that we had our say and told our own stories. We are not a study or a statistic, but we are real women who’s lives have been impacted by this issue. We are not here to blame our dads or play the victim. We are not broken or damaged, we simply need to heal our daddy wounds and rewrite a new story for our lives.” 

This film not only shows that it’s possible for women to heal their daddy wounds, but if they are willing, it’s also inevitable.” 

To learn more about how you can host a Making of a Fatherless Daughter Viewing or to attend one in your area, contact info@fatherlessdaughters.net. To get more information about The Fatherless Daughter Network, log onto www.fatherlessdaughters.net

It's Happening...A Dream Come True!

You've often heard me say that "we must jump and grow our wings on the way." Well, that's exactly what I did when I decided to do a documentary on Fatherless Daughter Women. I didn't have a clue where to start, how to do it or anything. But there was a willingness to learn. So I wrote the treatment and outline for the film. Of course, I prayed and meditated. I called a few production companies and waited. One day the phone started to ring and the rest was history. So say that I'm excited is an understatement. This is a dream come true for me. I am more excited because of the courageous five women who are sharing their stories. Take a moment and watch the trailer for the upcoming documentary and tell me what you think. I really would love to hear your thoughts. And don't forget to live authentically, laugh everyday and embrace love as as lifestyle. Because success in life, really does begin with love.

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Bring Your Gifts To The World

Last week was a wonderful week for me! My husband and I spent a week in Hilton Head, SC, relaxing and getting caught up on some much needed rest. Then we headed to Charleston, SC for the weekend, where I facilitated a Fatherless Daughter workshop for the Charleston Black Expo. 

During the Expo I met some incredible women who were ready to heal their daddy wounds and others who didn’t realize their father-daughter relationship was having an impact upon their lives until they heard what I shared. It’s amazing how the right information can create awareness and breakthroughs in your life. I’ve always known that working with women who grew up with an unattached, unavailable or absent father was important work. But since filming my documentary and doing this Expo tour, I am more convinced than ever, this work must be done.

What is that you feel in your heart you should be doing to help ease and eradicate the pain of others? What’s your life’s mission? What’s your life’s work? My mission is the increase love on the planet, one heart at a time and help women rewrite their stories. I simply choose to do it through my speaking, writing, coaching and my other media outlets. 

We each bring unique gifts and interests to this lifetime. The more you know what yours are, the better you will serve others. The more you tap into your innate passions, the more you will naturally attract wealth. And living your passion in service to others = success.

The key point here is to get really specific in defining your interests. When we’re first inspired to support others, we often have a very vague sense of how we might do that. We don’t know the details – we just know we want to empower others. We are so close to our own gifts that we have trouble identifying them. I can help you work through these blocks.

There are an infinite number of specific areas in which we might offer support. Consider these for a start: addictions, careers, parenting, chronic pain, depression, creativity, leadership, story writing, relationships, life purpose, money, journal writing, retirement, empowerment – The list is as rich as your imagination. I have a list of over 100 popular personal growth niches.

What focus really gets your energy flowing? When you answer, be as specific as you possibly can.

Our challenge lies in uncovering the details from within. Most of us need to engage in a self-discovery process to identify or clarify our particular passion. And once we identify our focus, we can then define our unique market niche.

To start, here are a few questions for you to reflect on. Write your answers in your journal.

• What do you love to do?
• What excites and energizes you?
• What are you very good at?

Look over your answers and see if your unique niche jumps out at you. Share you answers below with us in the comment box.

Remember to live authentically, laugh everyday and embrace love as a lifestyle.

Angela Carr Patterson, Your Love Lifestyle Coach

I Pray You Will

It never ceases to amaze me the number of women who are willing to settle for things in life that they don't want, like or desire. There's something within us that causes us to simply give up on what's most important to us. And for many women, they don't even know what's really important anymore.

They spend much of their time making sure that other's are getting their needs, dreams and desires fulfilled. Oh, how I know this feeling all too well. There were times in my life when I wanted to choose my desires, but I felt it was more important that I did what was expected and required of me instead of what was true for me. I became tired and resentful. Not openly, because I would have never wanted to seen as being that kind of woman. But inwardly, I could sense a tightness in my core, my headaches increased and I was constantly tired. 

Repressed feelings and emotions will manifest in our bodies. When speaking to thousands of women through the work that I do, I have discovered that my story is not unique. I have found that many women find themselves ignoring the dreams and desires they hold dear in their hearts. They keep telling themselves perhaps one day when the kids are grown; one day when I get the money; or one day when I lose the extra pounds.

But I want to encourage you to make your "one day" today! I have a friend Bonita Clemons who has a new book coming out soon entitled "Don't Wait til Monday." People love to wait until Monday to start that new diet, to begin organizing their space, to start that exercise program or to make that important telephone call. We put off things until Monday. Bonita shares how she was trying to contact a dying friend's brother so he could say goodbye to his sister on the telephone. When she reached someone who could get him on the phone, they asked that Bonita call back on Monday. She told the person that she didn't have until Monday. So they put the brother on the phone and he was able to speak to his dying sister. Once she heard her brother's voice, hours later she died. 

How long will you continue to wait on your dreams? How long will you wait until your relationship heal? You know that the two of you no longer talk "to" each other, but you talk "past" each other. When will you start the path to healing the relationship?

How long will you wait to launch that business, that dream, that idea? Will you wait until someone else launches a similar idea and then get angry because you believe they stole your idea?

What if I told you that you deserve to live the life of your dreams and that you have the power within you to make it happen? What if you could do it now regardless of your current situation or circumstances? Would you say yes? Will you give yourself permission to go after what you truly want today? I pray that you will.

Give Them Back Their Story

In my line of work I get to communicate with diverse women from all parts of the world which I find fascinating. Nothing is more incredible than to listen to their many stories. Let’s face it! We all have a story to share and it’s our stories that create our life’s experiences. But what I have discovered over the years is that when we rewrite our stories the way we want them to be, we also recreate the life that we want as well. 

You are not your story for many different reasons. As a woman you have experienced much pain in your life that, no doubt that was inflicted upon you by people who had their own painful story. 

These people took their pain and unleashed it onto you and you have somehow made their pain your pain. But when you find the courage to say, “no more will I allow someone else’s pain and someone else’s story to continue creating the situations and circumstances in my life”, then you will have taken the first step into owning your power. Your power to rewrite your story and recreate a new life for yourself. Sure the pain of your past was real. You felt it and you experienced it. But when you release ownership of this painful experience and give it back to it’s rightful owner, you will step into a whole new world of infinite possibilities for your life. 

 How many stories have you claimed as your own but they really belonged to someone else? Don’t you think it’s time you gave it back to it’s rightful owner so that you can began rewriting and, living your own story? But this time on your own terms and this time the way you desire it to be. It’s time for your true story, your love story! 

Remember, live authentically, laugh everyday and embrace love as a lifestyle. Because success in life really does begin with love.

A Good Man is Hard to Find

I often hear women say, “a good man is hard to find.” They also go on to say that it’s hard to find a man who’s comfortable with a powerful and successful woman. Some women tend to believe that men are often intimidated by their success. While I can perhaps understand this theory, I can’t say that I totally agree with it. First of all, there are very few things that a man is afraid of and a woman is typically not one of them. 

There are numerous of successful and powerful women who are experiencing beautiful and loving relationships with men who adore, admire and love them. And that’s because these women have discovered the hidden secret power to making love work. As I began to explore a little deeper into this topic, I discovered several reasons why so many powerful and successful women are having a difficult time in finding and sustaining a harmonious relationship with a good man. But today, I will explore only one of them. 

 Over the last forty plus years, women have made great strides in the workplace and in our careers. We’ve experienced as much success as our male counterparts and in some cases we’ve even surpassed them. Of course we must celebrate these great achievements. But somewhere during this expansion we have lost our sense of who we really are as women. We changed our clothes to imitate men in our tailored blue and black suits. We deepened our voices and tensed our faces so that we could be taken more seriously in meetings. We worked long tiring hours trying to prove ourselves and keep up the masculine pace. We wanted to be treated like one of the boys and when this didn’t happened, we often cried discrimination...and in many cases, we were right to do so. We not only competed with the men, we became them. And while yes, we became what the world would deem as successful and powerful, yet for many of us, it was achieved at a great cost. In the midst of climbing the success ladder, we gave up who we really were… our true feminine powerful selves. We took on the energetic vibration of men. Yet, women were never designed to digest testosterone. We were tricked into believing that we had to do so.

Therefore, when a “good man” did show up in our lives and he didn’t stay very long, we automatically assumed that he was intimidated by our success. But in reality, he came looking for a woman (feminine energy) and what he found was himself (masculine energy), disguised as a woman. I do believe there maybe times when women need move into our masculine side in the workplace, yet it’s important to remember that only your feminine energy is the power that will attract and keep a “good man.” It’s not your masculine, material power or success that a good man is seeking, it’s the true power of the feminine energy that he so desires and needs. Your masculine side has no place in your relationships. As a side note, it’s also important to understand that your designer low cut tops, short sexy skirts and red bottom shoes will not get you exactly what you are seeking either. Nor does dimming down and playing the victim or the damsel in distress. If these things worked, millions of successful enterprising women wouldn’t still be lonely. This is not actualizing the authentic feminine power, it’s manipulation and trickery. Internally is where your power resides. 

Your true feminine power lies deep within and is expressed from a space of pure love and acceptance of yourself first. It’s about tapping into the flow of the truest, deepest feminine energy that radiates beneath the surface. It’s that magnetic power that would make you attractive no matter what size you are, your hair color or your age. Who we are as women does not make us weak, but very powerful. This power does not intimidate...it‘s the kind of power that every baby, every man, every human being longs for. Finding a good man is more about “being” than it is about “doing.” The masculine is active, the feminine is passive, the masculine is dynamic, and the feminine is magnetic. The masculine does while the feminine IS. 

We want a good man, but we will never have one until we recognize and become the feminine women we were created to be. We can have success in the bedroom and the boardroom. But only when we recognize and accept that our real worth and our real power is not external but internal. A good man is not hard to find…but in many cases...a real woman can be. What do you think?