How much love are you giving? I work with people everyday who often feel that no one really loves them. Or they wonder if they will ever experience a real love relationship with another.
But the question we all should be asking is...”how much love am I giving?” Because only what we are not giving can be lacking in any situation. The purpose of relationships is to expand us and where our love is conditional, we need expansion. Wanting to be loved when you are not ready or willing to give love is really a very selfish and self serving desire.
Can you love even in the absence of love? Can you love even when it seems that no one is reciprocating?
True love has no expectations...all true love wants to do is love...to give it. So I ask you once again...how much love are you giving? Take a look around you...if your life is not overflowing with love...maybe you are the missing link.
About Fatherless Daughters
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- A Fatherless Daughter is a female who grew up with an unavailable father due to divorce, death, abandonment or a dad's inability to show his daughter the kind of love and validation needed as a young girl. Her dad may have been unavailable due to being a work alcoholic, , drug and alcohol addiction or he simply lacked the ability to form any close emotional bond or could not show love. Whatever the reason for his absence, the life of that daughter will be impacted on many levels especially in two specific areas...love and money. When a father makes it clear to his daughter that he loves her unconditionally, just for who she is, he lays the foundation for her healthy self perception. When he shows approval for how she looks and what she does, he validates her existence. When he makes her feel that she can depend on those who love her to meet her needs, she feels secure. If these things do not exist in a girl's life as she approaches womanhood, she begins to judge her life's success based on the money she earns and love she finds. If she struggles in these areas, she begins to feel unwanted, unsafe, insecure and rejected. There begins the "Making of a Fatherless Daughter."
the only way i was able to love was to one, realize that I was bankrupt on love and two, that I couldn't give what I didn't have and Three, if I couldn't give it I couldn't get it because of the spiritual law of sowing and reaping. I was in a fine mess. i cried out to God and laid out to Him my situation and He took me and showed me where I had shut Him out and given up on love because it hurt too much to love. After I had shut Him out there was only more pain, self destruction and revictimization that I often put myself into the path of. When I repented of shutting out God and I asked Him to help me to RECEIVE HIS love for my heart. He did....and I have never turned back. And I'm living the dream the more love I give the more love I get. <3
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