Hello Beautiful Woman,
I have the privilege of speaking to women everyday on how to live their best lives. How they can earn more money in their businesses, improve their love life and gain more energy and health in their bodies.But I also witness women struggle to make their lives work.
They struggle with finding balance between work and family, keeping their bodies healthy and making room for their own dreams to be realized.While many of today's women are ambitious, driven and appear to have it altogether. I have noticed that everything is not as it really appears. Many women are lonely, stuck in a rut, struggling to make their businesses successful, to earn more money and are even unhappy with their bodies and life in general. Why is it that we are having such difficulty with our self esteem, with our need for approval and this intense need to be better or to have more?
I have discovered the answer is because we have not learned how to truly love who we are. Perhaps on the surface and it shows up in ways such as getting a massage, a mani, pedi, taking a vacation and etc. We tend to think that's loving ourselves. But millions of women with low self esteem and no self love, get massages and take vacations.I'm speaking of something deeper. Something hidden deep with in each of us that holds a fundamental belief that we are somehow not enough, not lovable and not good enough. Where does a belief of this sort come from?
In my work, I have discovered that this belief has it's root in our father-daughter relationships. It shows up in our lives as the Fatherless Daughter Syndrome.I define a fatherless daughter as a girl who grew up with an unattached, unavailable or absent father. But I have also discovered that many women whose father was fully present still suffer from the syndrome. The impact of our father-daughter relationship is showing up in the life that you are currently experiencing. Much of it is based on your daddy's love patterns.
Perhaps your dad was not unavailable, absent or unattached. But he may have been a disapproving dad, a feminist dad, a nice-guy dad, a narcissistic dad, or a harboring dad. Whatever his love style, your life has been influenced by it in many ways and on several levels.The danger is in not being aware and not doing anything to change it. We fatherless daughters are a national dilemma. We may not make the six o'clock news, but we are here. Then again, the impact on our lives sometimes
make the news such as domestic violence, competitiveness, joblessness, alarming number of single moms and high divorce rates.
A girl learns to love herself through the love she sees reflected back to her in her daddy's eyes. When this doesn't happen in a very healthy manner, the impact of this one missing element can be catastrophic on a woman's life when she reaches adulthood. It will impact our relationships with our men, our children, our co workers, ourselves and our bodies. While many women may have seen very healthy love reflected back to them from their dads, there are millions who did not. And others who had dads with love patterns that were some what difficult to digest.
Ask any group of adult women to talk about their relationships with their own fathers, and rarely will you get a lukewarm response. You'll hear, "My dad is my hero and he had huge positive influence on me," or "My dad was an insensitive, inattentive jerk and had a huge negative influence on me." Of course the most important words are huge influence.If you don't learn how your father-daughter relationship is influencing your life today, you could remain stuck on that up and down roller coaster of life.
Your dad's influence on your life was his responsibility. But our doing something about it and healing our lives is our opportunity.I want to invite you to join me tonight at 7PM EST. for the kick off of The Fatherless Daughter Breakthrough Program. This is your opportunity to erase and eliminate the negative influences of your father-daughter relationship on your life today. This is not about blaming, but explaining, awareness and breakthroughs.
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