On the topic of Fatherless Daughters, Dr. Richard Horowitz says it like this, ―"It leaves a hole in their soul that is extremely difficult to fill, and they carry this father hunger into adulthood until it's dealt with."
Have you truly dealt with your fatherless daughter's issues? For years, I didn't realize I even had any issues with my father being absent from my life. I was ambitious, driven, successful and didn't think I had any ill feelings towards my father. My father had many problems of his own, including being diagnosed as schizophrenia and paranoid.
When I did find my biological father, I was married with one child. He had been institutionalized for many years by then and the man that I finally met, was sick. To say the least, there was not much of a relationship that we were able to form. I simply couldn't connect with a man who was not there mentally. His family was very protective of him and they assumed that I had showed up because I wanted money or something. But little did they know that I merely wanted a dad.
Over the years, I have met numerous of women with fatherless daughter stories. I've also met women who were not even aware that the fatherless daughter's syndrome was playing out in the lives they were currently experiencing. I literally can talk to a women for approximately five minutes and know that she is a fatherless daughter because the symptoms speak loudly and clearly.
One thing for sure, the patterns are the same and they don't lie. As Dr. Horowitz said, we will continue to carry this hole in our souls until we deal with it. Studies have proven that a girl who grows up with an absent, unavailable or unattached father, will be impacted on many levels once she reaches adulthood. Your father's love patterns, whether good or bad, are having a huge impact on your life today.
Many women are deceived into believing that because they are coping, they have broken through. But coping does not equate to victory. Your life can and will be significantly better, and more liberating when you finally deal with was lies beneath.
Are you a fatherless daughter? It's time that you deal with it!!
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