Get To Stepping!

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I am still excited from my time with Oprah at her Life You Want Weekend in Atlanta, GA. It was the most powerful and enlightening time of my life. I truly believe a deeper shift happened within me at that event. Since returning home, I’ve asked myself a question that I always ask when learning something new. And it is, “What key actions will I take as a result of this new information?”

I will tell you that I have taken some massive action steps in just one week. I will surely share them with you at another time. But here’s my point today. We are all in information overload. There’s not anything we want to know that we can’t find on the Internet. We have access to all kinds of information. But this information does us no good if we don’t access it deep enough to create massive change in our lives. 

I believe there are 2 things that you begin doing to create massive change and transformation with the information that comes to you each day. 

1. Share what you’ve learned. When we share, we anchor our own learning. Many times we want to keep the information to ourselves because we don’t want anyone else to have it. We somehow believe that if someone else has the same information they will achieve more than us. This is an illusion that keeps you thinking that if someone else wins, you lose. It’s called the zero sum mentality which will keep you stuck. So begin to share in empowering ways and watch your life change. 

2. The second thing is to ask yourself key questions. Tony Robbins said, “The quality of your life is in relationship to the questions you ask yourself.” One great question to ask yourself after learning something new is, “What key action will I take as a result of what I just learned?” This question forces you to do something, to take action. 

Massive action equals massive results. The bigger the action step, the bigger the result. Yes, we are inundated with information. We can’t change this fact. But we can allow the information we receive to benefit us when we understand what to do with it. The above one-two steps will do just that for you. So get to stepping! I am holding a space for you to shine and celebrating your success. 

So remember, live authentically, laugh everyday and embrace love as a lifestyle. Because success in life, really does begin with love. Have a rich and love filled day.

Angela

I would love to hear what you have to say, so leave your comments below..

Daddy Where Are You?

Hello Beautiful Women! I am working with the casting team for this new television show that is sure be amazing. If you or someone you know is interested in being considered for this show, connect with me. I can bypass some of the process to get your story heard quickly. This will be a grand opportunity to share your story, to heal, to help someone else heal and to move your life forward.

Are You a Fatherless Daughter? There's Danger in Not Knowing.

Finding Daddy At Last!

In our upcoming documentary The Making of a Fatherless Daughter, you will learn how this fatherless daughter found her dad after 35+ years. When she found him, he was dying of cancer. Yet, he held on long enough to walk her down the aisle at she and her husband's Vow Renewal Celebration. You think it was easy?...Not so. You've got to see the story as it unveils. Heart touching...you will need tissue. Learn how you can host a viewing of this incredible and amazing documentary that will change you forever. www.fatherlessdaughters.net

Fatherless Daughters Are Now Ready To Tell Their Stories.

Oprah Winfrey and Iyanla Vanzant did an Expose’ on Daddyless Daughters on the OWN network last year in July. Since that time, much as been written and spoken about the impact on a girl’s life when she grows up fatherless. We’ve been inundated with theories, studies and researches that show the many negative consequences on a girl growing up without an attentive, loving father. 

New books are on the rise, television shows are being created and even the bloggers are hopping on the band wagon to talk about fatherless daughters. “It’s as if we have become some sort of phenomenon,” say’s Angela Carr Patterson, Author of the highly acclaimed book, “I’m Not That Woman...A Fatherless Daughter’s Journey to Being” and creator of the soon to be released documentary, “The Making of a Fatherless Daughter.” 

Patterson continues to say, “Everyone is trying to tell our stories, but we are the ones who lived it. I think it’s about time that we had our say and tell our own stories, in our own unique way.” 

With the success of her book, Angela has traveled speaking to women who grew up with an unattached, unavailable or absent father. Through her “Fatherless Daughter Breakthrough System”, she has helped women from around the world heal their daddy wounds through the principles of Love, Acceptance and Forgiveness. Understanding the depth of this pain and the many severe consequences experienced by females once they reach adulthood, Angela is on a mission to help women heal and create a new story for their lives. 

As a third generation fatherless daughter herself, Angela knows first hand what it feels like to be invisible to your father while growing up. And as a result of this one key missing element in her life, she certainly struggled to make her life work. After her first marriage of sixteen years ended in a bitter divorce, Angela began what she calls her, “Journey to Being.” The “Journey to Being” process consist of seven principles that she incorporated in her life to help her move through her pain to healing her daddy wounds and to now living a life of love, acceptance and forgiveness. 

The founder of The Fatherless Daughter Network and a Fatherless Daughter Advocate, Angela is thrilled to introduce her new soon to be released documentary, “The Making of a Fatherless Daughter.” This powerful and sensitive short film features the stories of five women who grew up as fatherless daughters. Two of the women fathers were in the home and viewers will learn why they still considered themselves fatherless daughters. The stories are told with transparency, honesty, a lot of raw emotions and more importantly with an intense amount of forgiveness and love. “The women in this film placed it all there for us to see. They were authentic, real and transparent”, says Angela. Angela continues on by saying, “It’s time that we had our say and told our own stories. We are not a study or a statistic, but we are real women who’s lives have been impacted by this issue. We are not here to blame our dads or play the victim. We are not broken or damaged, we simply need to heal our daddy wounds and rewrite a new story for our lives.” 

This film not only shows that it’s possible for women to heal their daddy wounds, but if they are willing, it’s also inevitable.” 

To learn more about how you can host a Making of a Fatherless Daughter Viewing or to attend one in your area, contact info@fatherlessdaughters.net. To get more information about The Fatherless Daughter Network, log onto www.fatherlessdaughters.net

It's Happening...A Dream Come True!

You've often heard me say that "we must jump and grow our wings on the way." Well, that's exactly what I did when I decided to do a documentary on Fatherless Daughter Women. I didn't have a clue where to start, how to do it or anything. But there was a willingness to learn. So I wrote the treatment and outline for the film. Of course, I prayed and meditated. I called a few production companies and waited. One day the phone started to ring and the rest was history. So say that I'm excited is an understatement. This is a dream come true for me. I am more excited because of the courageous five women who are sharing their stories. Take a moment and watch the trailer for the upcoming documentary and tell me what you think. I really would love to hear your thoughts. And don't forget to live authentically, laugh everyday and embrace love as as lifestyle. Because success in life, really does begin with love.

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Bring Your Gifts To The World

Last week was a wonderful week for me! My husband and I spent a week in Hilton Head, SC, relaxing and getting caught up on some much needed rest. Then we headed to Charleston, SC for the weekend, where I facilitated a Fatherless Daughter workshop for the Charleston Black Expo. 

During the Expo I met some incredible women who were ready to heal their daddy wounds and others who didn’t realize their father-daughter relationship was having an impact upon their lives until they heard what I shared. It’s amazing how the right information can create awareness and breakthroughs in your life. I’ve always known that working with women who grew up with an unattached, unavailable or absent father was important work. But since filming my documentary and doing this Expo tour, I am more convinced than ever, this work must be done.

What is that you feel in your heart you should be doing to help ease and eradicate the pain of others? What’s your life’s mission? What’s your life’s work? My mission is the increase love on the planet, one heart at a time and help women rewrite their stories. I simply choose to do it through my speaking, writing, coaching and my other media outlets. 

We each bring unique gifts and interests to this lifetime. The more you know what yours are, the better you will serve others. The more you tap into your innate passions, the more you will naturally attract wealth. And living your passion in service to others = success.

The key point here is to get really specific in defining your interests. When we’re first inspired to support others, we often have a very vague sense of how we might do that. We don’t know the details – we just know we want to empower others. We are so close to our own gifts that we have trouble identifying them. I can help you work through these blocks.

There are an infinite number of specific areas in which we might offer support. Consider these for a start: addictions, careers, parenting, chronic pain, depression, creativity, leadership, story writing, relationships, life purpose, money, journal writing, retirement, empowerment – The list is as rich as your imagination. I have a list of over 100 popular personal growth niches.

What focus really gets your energy flowing? When you answer, be as specific as you possibly can.

Our challenge lies in uncovering the details from within. Most of us need to engage in a self-discovery process to identify or clarify our particular passion. And once we identify our focus, we can then define our unique market niche.

To start, here are a few questions for you to reflect on. Write your answers in your journal.

• What do you love to do?
• What excites and energizes you?
• What are you very good at?

Look over your answers and see if your unique niche jumps out at you. Share you answers below with us in the comment box.

Remember to live authentically, laugh everyday and embrace love as a lifestyle.

Angela Carr Patterson, Your Love Lifestyle Coach

I Pray You Will

It never ceases to amaze me the number of women who are willing to settle for things in life that they don't want, like or desire. There's something within us that causes us to simply give up on what's most important to us. And for many women, they don't even know what's really important anymore.

They spend much of their time making sure that other's are getting their needs, dreams and desires fulfilled. Oh, how I know this feeling all too well. There were times in my life when I wanted to choose my desires, but I felt it was more important that I did what was expected and required of me instead of what was true for me. I became tired and resentful. Not openly, because I would have never wanted to seen as being that kind of woman. But inwardly, I could sense a tightness in my core, my headaches increased and I was constantly tired. 

Repressed feelings and emotions will manifest in our bodies. When speaking to thousands of women through the work that I do, I have discovered that my story is not unique. I have found that many women find themselves ignoring the dreams and desires they hold dear in their hearts. They keep telling themselves perhaps one day when the kids are grown; one day when I get the money; or one day when I lose the extra pounds.

But I want to encourage you to make your "one day" today! I have a friend Bonita Clemons who has a new book coming out soon entitled "Don't Wait til Monday." People love to wait until Monday to start that new diet, to begin organizing their space, to start that exercise program or to make that important telephone call. We put off things until Monday. Bonita shares how she was trying to contact a dying friend's brother so he could say goodbye to his sister on the telephone. When she reached someone who could get him on the phone, they asked that Bonita call back on Monday. She told the person that she didn't have until Monday. So they put the brother on the phone and he was able to speak to his dying sister. Once she heard her brother's voice, hours later she died. 

How long will you continue to wait on your dreams? How long will you wait until your relationship heal? You know that the two of you no longer talk "to" each other, but you talk "past" each other. When will you start the path to healing the relationship?

How long will you wait to launch that business, that dream, that idea? Will you wait until someone else launches a similar idea and then get angry because you believe they stole your idea?

What if I told you that you deserve to live the life of your dreams and that you have the power within you to make it happen? What if you could do it now regardless of your current situation or circumstances? Would you say yes? Will you give yourself permission to go after what you truly want today? I pray that you will.

Give Them Back Their Story

In my line of work I get to communicate with diverse women from all parts of the world which I find fascinating. Nothing is more incredible than to listen to their many stories. Let’s face it! We all have a story to share and it’s our stories that create our life’s experiences. But what I have discovered over the years is that when we rewrite our stories the way we want them to be, we also recreate the life that we want as well. 

You are not your story for many different reasons. As a woman you have experienced much pain in your life that, no doubt that was inflicted upon you by people who had their own painful story. 

These people took their pain and unleashed it onto you and you have somehow made their pain your pain. But when you find the courage to say, “no more will I allow someone else’s pain and someone else’s story to continue creating the situations and circumstances in my life”, then you will have taken the first step into owning your power. Your power to rewrite your story and recreate a new life for yourself. Sure the pain of your past was real. You felt it and you experienced it. But when you release ownership of this painful experience and give it back to it’s rightful owner, you will step into a whole new world of infinite possibilities for your life. 

 How many stories have you claimed as your own but they really belonged to someone else? Don’t you think it’s time you gave it back to it’s rightful owner so that you can began rewriting and, living your own story? But this time on your own terms and this time the way you desire it to be. It’s time for your true story, your love story! 

Remember, live authentically, laugh everyday and embrace love as a lifestyle. Because success in life really does begin with love.

A Good Man is Hard to Find

I often hear women say, “a good man is hard to find.” They also go on to say that it’s hard to find a man who’s comfortable with a powerful and successful woman. Some women tend to believe that men are often intimidated by their success. While I can perhaps understand this theory, I can’t say that I totally agree with it. First of all, there are very few things that a man is afraid of and a woman is typically not one of them. 

There are numerous of successful and powerful women who are experiencing beautiful and loving relationships with men who adore, admire and love them. And that’s because these women have discovered the hidden secret power to making love work. As I began to explore a little deeper into this topic, I discovered several reasons why so many powerful and successful women are having a difficult time in finding and sustaining a harmonious relationship with a good man. But today, I will explore only one of them. 

 Over the last forty plus years, women have made great strides in the workplace and in our careers. We’ve experienced as much success as our male counterparts and in some cases we’ve even surpassed them. Of course we must celebrate these great achievements. But somewhere during this expansion we have lost our sense of who we really are as women. We changed our clothes to imitate men in our tailored blue and black suits. We deepened our voices and tensed our faces so that we could be taken more seriously in meetings. We worked long tiring hours trying to prove ourselves and keep up the masculine pace. We wanted to be treated like one of the boys and when this didn’t happened, we often cried discrimination...and in many cases, we were right to do so. We not only competed with the men, we became them. And while yes, we became what the world would deem as successful and powerful, yet for many of us, it was achieved at a great cost. In the midst of climbing the success ladder, we gave up who we really were… our true feminine powerful selves. We took on the energetic vibration of men. Yet, women were never designed to digest testosterone. We were tricked into believing that we had to do so.

Therefore, when a “good man” did show up in our lives and he didn’t stay very long, we automatically assumed that he was intimidated by our success. But in reality, he came looking for a woman (feminine energy) and what he found was himself (masculine energy), disguised as a woman. I do believe there maybe times when women need move into our masculine side in the workplace, yet it’s important to remember that only your feminine energy is the power that will attract and keep a “good man.” It’s not your masculine, material power or success that a good man is seeking, it’s the true power of the feminine energy that he so desires and needs. Your masculine side has no place in your relationships. As a side note, it’s also important to understand that your designer low cut tops, short sexy skirts and red bottom shoes will not get you exactly what you are seeking either. Nor does dimming down and playing the victim or the damsel in distress. If these things worked, millions of successful enterprising women wouldn’t still be lonely. This is not actualizing the authentic feminine power, it’s manipulation and trickery. Internally is where your power resides. 

Your true feminine power lies deep within and is expressed from a space of pure love and acceptance of yourself first. It’s about tapping into the flow of the truest, deepest feminine energy that radiates beneath the surface. It’s that magnetic power that would make you attractive no matter what size you are, your hair color or your age. Who we are as women does not make us weak, but very powerful. This power does not intimidate...it‘s the kind of power that every baby, every man, every human being longs for. Finding a good man is more about “being” than it is about “doing.” The masculine is active, the feminine is passive, the masculine is dynamic, and the feminine is magnetic. The masculine does while the feminine IS. 

We want a good man, but we will never have one until we recognize and become the feminine women we were created to be. We can have success in the bedroom and the boardroom. But only when we recognize and accept that our real worth and our real power is not external but internal. A good man is not hard to find…but in many cases...a real woman can be. What do you think?

Happy New Year!

As I sat down to write the first blog of the year for my community of subscribers, I searched through some of my previous notes from other writings, but nothing seemed to jump out at me. Then I started to write the regular happy new year, make this a great year kind of speech. But that didn’t feel authentic. So, I paused for a moment and got really quiet, still and just listened. 

And here’s what I heard… You are loved my dear sister! You are the most precious gift to the planet. There’s treasures of greatness inside of you that’s simply waiting to emerge. Within you lies the greatest possibilities for your life this year. It’s when you awaken unto the truth of who you really are…not in some mental kind of way…but somewhere deep…somewhere in the sacred spaces of your being…where only you can gain access…will you be able to full grasp what lies beneath. 

This is a great time of discovery…the unfolding of the “YOU” that’s been hidden, but now desires to be known. You’ve held a glimpse of her in those precious silent moments but have been afraid to speak about them because you feared you’d be judged. But yes, it was in those moments you’ve felt powerful. It was in those moments you’ve felt most loved. Imagine living those moments each and every waking hour…minute and second of your life? Is this is possible for you? Not only is it possible for you, it’s inevitable. 

 Because you’re loved beautiful woman! You didn’t have to do anything to deserve this love…and you still don’t…you merely had to exist. So what will you do now that you know the truth of who you are? Will you live in this truth or will you continue to live the illusion of the limited life you’ve struggled to exit within? 

 There’s so much freedom in who you are. There’s also an abundance of joy, wellness, wealth and love in who you are. These are your birthright! Yes, it’s a new year…so don’t you think it’s time to unleash who you are and begin to shine so the world can finally experience your true magnificence? Because we all have been waiting on you!

This Issue of Fatherless Daughters!

Let's face it! Being a Fatherless Daughter is no walk in the park. It takes a lot work to move beyond the pain and heart ache of having an unavailable, unattached or absent dad while growing up. But what's even worst is that you don't really understand the tremendous impact of fatherlessness until we reach adulthood. 

That's when the real issues begin to surface and show up in our relationships, our finances, our bodies and our careers. The good news is that women are starting to heal their daddy wounds. They are beginning to understand that their fatherlessness was not their fault, it was just their injury. And we all know that injuries do heal. 

 I've prepared a short video that I feel maybe of great interest to you. Would take a moment to watch it and then let me know what you think of it? Just simply click here to watch the video... Much Love, Angela

It's Time to Dream Again

What we see is not necessarily what really is. For most women, our lives do not reflect who we really are. Many of us are living life “as it comes” when in reality, we should be living our dreams. Our lives don’t reflect who we truly are or what we can be.

As I travel and meet women I encounter those who have no sense of personal purpose. I see them struggling with aimless or misdirected lives. This has become an epidemic among women. Yet, there’s so much hidden inside of each of waiting to be revealed. Les Brown says, “there’s greatness inside of each of us.” I believe there are dreams inside of you. 

The dream you have or once had for your life that is not yet a reality, the gifts and talents you have not yet developed, the purpose for your life that is not yet fulfilled, the “something” you’ve always wanted to be or do but for some reason have not been able to accomplish. No matter who you are or where you are from, or who your parents were…every woman is born with a DREAM! 

God created each of us with a unique vision and dream for our life. He has tremendous plans for you that no one else can accomplish. The tragic things is that many women live their entire lives without ever recognizing and actualizing their dreams. How do you remove the blinders and barriers to uncover the dream within you? Helping people capture and fulfill their dreams has been the cornerstone of my business for almost thirty years. From entertainers, celebrities, entrepreneurs, speakers, and even stay at home moms, I have spent countless hours as a “dream-maker.” I want to do the same for you. 

What does it mean to capture the dream for your life? There was a story about a little girl who was on a cruise ship with her dad. They were standing on the back deck on a beautiful, clear, fresh day. The little girl was standing on her tiptoe to see and finally said to her dad, “I can’t see anything.” The father picked her up and put her on his shoulders, so that she was higher than anyone else on the deck and was able to see everything around her. “Daddy!” she exclaimed. “I can see farther than my eyes can look.” This little girl’s statement captures the essence of dreams: the ability to see farther than your physical eyes can look–to see not just what is, but also what can be and to make it a reality. Dreams are an idea that is inspired by God in the heart of a human. 

The greatest gift God has given you is a DREAM. Throughout history, progress has been made only by people who have seen things that were not there. They had a vision of what could be. They dared to dream. If by now you are starting to feel something stir inside of you. If by now these words are beginning to resonate somewhere deep inside of you, then it’s time for you to dream again. It’s time to awaken the dream within you. 

 I want to speak with you and ask you 5 Questions. Only 5 Questions to help you begin to capture your dream. Simply email me at info@thelovelifestylecoach.com , your name, contact info, your time zone and the best time to call. Let’s start you back to dreaming again and change the world.

Did You Know...?

Girls who grow up with an unavailable, unattached or absent father is a fatherless daughter. This one missing element in a girl's life while growing up can have grave consequences when she reaches womanhood. 

Her sense of self will be tainted, her self confidence warped or non-existent, her portrait of a loving relationship may be distorted or dysfunctional and her ability to really succeed in money matters becomes an issue. In other words, she struggles in her relationship with love and her relationship with money. Because both of these are tied into her self worth and value. Many fatherless daughters can earn great money, even 6 & 7 figures, but still find themselves broke or in debt or both. She can find love, but have a difficult time maintaining harmony in the relationship. 

Her children finds it difficult to please her or she maybe over protective, smothering them. She can be DRIVEN by success because of an inner need to be the BEST...which is always admirable...but the fuel source behind it for a fatherless daughter can be dangerous. She has this empty hole that cannot be filled, always trying to be more and do more. She hears from those who love her phrases such as "no matter what I do, it's never enough." No can seem to get it right or make her happy. 

That's because being fatherless has left a hole in her soul that will never be filled until she confronts and deals with her fatherless daughter issues. She must be warned, this process is NOT a simple weekend project. It must be ongoing process until it must become second nature. 

My Fatherless Daughter Breakthrough Private Coaching program is designed to help you move beyond your daddy wounds. This process will not be easy, but it is simple and I will be there with along the way. And it will pave the road to finding inner self confidence and love for oneself, which will in turn led to the abolishment of the need for finding these things in another. 

This is one of the roads to inner freedom! Email me your name, phone and best time to contact you. info@thelovelifestylecoach.com and let's move your life forward....Much love, Angela

Are You Ready to Show Up?

Can you believe that we are getting ready for the holiday season? It feels as if we've just completed the summer. If you are like most women, you are wondering where did the time go? I've asked myself that same question. This is also the time of the year where I reflect back to see if I've accomplished the things I said that I would this year. In most cases when I do this, I discover that I didn't reach all of my goals. But I also recognize that there's still time to finish strong. Not in some hustle bustle, nose to the grind kind of way. That way of being simply does not align with the feminine energy of women. 

As women, when we go after our dreams with this kind of "take the bull by the horns" energy, we short circuit our energy field. And as a result, we are left feeling overworked, overwhelmed and in many cases overlooked. Because when your energy field is short circuited....that's like NOT showing up in life at all. And when this happens, our dreams are once again delayed. 

 Yet, one thing I've learned is that "delay does not mean denial." You truly deserve to have your dreams fulfilled and realized. You are already encoded for everything you want at your deepest level. As a divine, vibrational being, nothing can limit you. There's nothing wrong with you. 

You are not broken, you are perfect and loved just the way you are. And no matter what you are going through, it is in divine order and it's only your perception that says otherwise. It's time to get rid of our reasons and our justifications for why we show up less than our divine, magnificent and radiant selves. 

It's your time to shine! So shine my sister...show up and shine!

Oprah, Iyanla and TD Jakes Talked About It...Now Taylore Has Something to Share...

A Gentle Soul…RIP

I am sure most of you have heard about the tragedy of former Disney Star and Co-Star of Rizzoli and Isles, Lee Thompson Young. Last week this sweet young man died from a self inflicted gun shot wound. What most of you don’t know is that I started this young man in the entertainment business. As you know for over 23 years I was in the entertainment industry as an agent/manager as well as owned a performing arts center.

 

One day, this handsome young man walked into my office when he was 11 years old. He grabbed my hand, kissed it and then flipped out a business card that read “Lee Thompson Young, Actor.” At that time Lee had only done 2 local plays. But what I said to him on that day became true. I said, “I’m going to make you a STAR.”  Within a year and a half of that day, he was starring in his own show on the Disney Channel, “The Famous Jett Jackson.”

 

Over the years, this young boy has had a wonderful and successful career as an actor. But what most folks don’t know is that he was a very gentle and loving soul. Lee discovered his purpose early in life and he went after it with such ease and grace because he knew that it was his assignment. 

 

His family has asked that I help prepare his hometown memorial and I can tell you it has been both an honor and yet a painful experience. But what gives me joy and comfort is I’ve learned so much from this young man about living your dreams now.

 

While he was only 29 years old at his passing, he has done more in those short years than many people will do in 60 years. As I reflect upon his journey I  realized that he followed the three steps that I teach for success.

 

1. Spirituality- Lee had a deep, abiding relationship with God. He exhibited that divinity everywhere he went because of the love he embodied. His love for his family, his friends and all people was just incredible. He always had something good to say…never negative even when things didn’t good promising to him. He always saw God in all that he did. His spiritual life was priority for him. That’s why you never saw him do any work that didn’t reflect how he lived his life.

 

2. Strategies-Lee was always a life student. He wanted to know how to live in the present. He wanted to know how to live a deep spiritual life and he would seek out new ways of being, new skill sets and new strategies for his life.  He kept great coaches and mentors in his life to help direct and guide him through his journey.

 

3. Supporting Cast-There’s a saying that you are the sum total of the 5 people you spend your most time with. For Lee, the people he spent his most time with were brilliant and wonderful people. He made sure his supporting cast were people he could grow and expand with. He also kept close contact with his family and remained connected to them.

 

I will miss this young man and I would be lying if I said that I was not hurting,  because I am. But this is not about me, it’s about a young man who knew his purpose and had the courage to live it. My question to you is, “What about you?  Will you die with your dream inside of you, or  are you wiling to live your dream now?” Perhaps you don’t know what that dream is. If this is true, then it’s time to find out by connecting with someone who can help you discover the answers. As your Love Lifestyle Coach, I can help you do just that. If not me, then find someone because it’s time to live your dreams NOW!

What Were Your Daddy's Love Patterns?

On the topic of fatherless daughters...perhaps your dad was there...but what were his love patterns?...those patterns can have an impact on girl's life when she reaches adulthood...

These are the 5 Daddy Archetypes found in my program:

Disapproving Dad...there's nothing you could ever do to get his full approval. He always required more from you...he sets the bar high...but doesn't take the time to notice "you" instead of your accomplishments...or perhaps he wanted a boy instead...and it shows...

Impact on Daughter-- this keeps you always seeking approval and never feeling good enough...always trying to be better...you become uptight, overly ambitious and competitive.

Disabled Dad...mental/physical illness, drugs/alcohol, abusive, anger...these things will prevent him from creating a closeness with his daughter...or maybe he's a passive father...doesn't get involved...let's mom handle everything.

Impact on Daughter--this creates a lot of anger in you because of your disappointment...keeps you in a space of shame, insecurity, hiding and distrust...very difficult for you to create close intimate relationships...you even try to become someone you are not...because of the insecurity and shame...you have no real sense of identity.

Dictator Father...it's like living with a military drill sergeant, a whole lot of rules..but no real relationships...religion legalism and tight boundaries...feels like no oxygen in the home...

Impact on Daughter--you grow up to become distant and resentful. You will often times be perceived as cold, unfeeling, angry and focused only on the task at hand instead of people... disconnected from your heart space.

Distant Father...physically or emotionally...unattached and not able to form close bond with daughter...works all the time...can be in the room with you and even involved in activities...but not emotionally connected to anyone...because his focused is always on something else...or he's simply disconnected.

Impact on Daughter--you feel invisible and unworthy...you may try hard to get attention from men...even giving of yourself in ways that do not serve you because you want to be seen and validated.

Doting Father...shows excessive fondness and love for his daughter. She can do no wrong and he's always giving her money and buying her things. She has become more of trophy, something he can show off...yet he really does love her. Through his spoiling her, he has missed some valuable things...such as life lessons of consideration of others, kindness, compassion for others and generosity. He gets the love part, but missed the parent piece in the relationship.

Impact on Daughter--you begin to think that all relationships are this way. You translate gifts and letting you have your way as real love. You become selfish, self centered, spoiled, needy and incapable of seeing the other's person's needs and point of view. You become a taker in the relationship and this leads to you playing the victim in most cases. 

Fathers be sure to check your love patterns when it come to your daughters...

But the good news...it doesn't have to remain this way.....you can learn new patterns and new ways of being with your daughter that will validate her very existence! 

Oprah Winfrey Takes The Issue of Fatherless Daughters Global and Angela Wants to Continue The Conversation

Much has been written and spoken on the subject of boys growing up without their fathers and the negative impact this missing key element has on their lives as they reach adulthood. We’ve read numerous studies that offer alarming statistics of our prisons being filled with men who grew up without their fathers. There are numerous of programs, discussions and books on this alarming topic of fatherless sons.

Yet, little has been brought to the forefront of our attention when it comes to fatherless daughters. Until now!! On July 14th and July 21st, Oprah Winfrey and Iyanla Vanzant will host a 2-Part Life Class on the OWN Network entitled, “Daddyless Daughters.” The effects on a girl’s life who grows up with an unavailable, unattached or absent father can be catastrophic.

An adult woman who did not have the validation, love and support of an attentive and loving father will experience many devastating issues in life from relationships problems, money issues, career and health problems. As The Love Lifestyle Coach and author of “I’m Not That Woman…A Fatherless Daughter’s Journey to Being,” I have been speaking and coaching fatherless daughters for years through my Fatherless Daughters Breakthrough Program.

I am delighted that the OWN Network is bringing this topic onto a global platform and I had a chance to view the taping of the shows via online. We cannot solve these issues in two television shows, but now we can get the conversation started.

That’s why I am hosting a series of online and live events, starting with a FREE live event,“Fatherless Daughters Shares Their Heart Secrets…The Conversation Continues” on Tuesday, July 23rd, 7PM at The Comfort Suites Hotel, 1540 Daulton Drive, Columbia, SC. To attend this event RSVP Here…