This Issue of Fatherless Daughters!

Let's face it! Being a Fatherless Daughter is no walk in the park. It takes a lot work to move beyond the pain and heart ache of having an unavailable, unattached or absent dad while growing up. But what's even worst is that you don't really understand the tremendous impact of fatherlessness until we reach adulthood. 

That's when the real issues begin to surface and show up in our relationships, our finances, our bodies and our careers. The good news is that women are starting to heal their daddy wounds. They are beginning to understand that their fatherlessness was not their fault, it was just their injury. And we all know that injuries do heal. 

 I've prepared a short video that I feel maybe of great interest to you. Would take a moment to watch it and then let me know what you think of it? Just simply click here to watch the video... Much Love, Angela

It's Time to Dream Again

What we see is not necessarily what really is. For most women, our lives do not reflect who we really are. Many of us are living life “as it comes” when in reality, we should be living our dreams. Our lives don’t reflect who we truly are or what we can be.

As I travel and meet women I encounter those who have no sense of personal purpose. I see them struggling with aimless or misdirected lives. This has become an epidemic among women. Yet, there’s so much hidden inside of each of waiting to be revealed. Les Brown says, “there’s greatness inside of each of us.” I believe there are dreams inside of you. 

The dream you have or once had for your life that is not yet a reality, the gifts and talents you have not yet developed, the purpose for your life that is not yet fulfilled, the “something” you’ve always wanted to be or do but for some reason have not been able to accomplish. No matter who you are or where you are from, or who your parents were…every woman is born with a DREAM! 

God created each of us with a unique vision and dream for our life. He has tremendous plans for you that no one else can accomplish. The tragic things is that many women live their entire lives without ever recognizing and actualizing their dreams. How do you remove the blinders and barriers to uncover the dream within you? Helping people capture and fulfill their dreams has been the cornerstone of my business for almost thirty years. From entertainers, celebrities, entrepreneurs, speakers, and even stay at home moms, I have spent countless hours as a “dream-maker.” I want to do the same for you. 

What does it mean to capture the dream for your life? There was a story about a little girl who was on a cruise ship with her dad. They were standing on the back deck on a beautiful, clear, fresh day. The little girl was standing on her tiptoe to see and finally said to her dad, “I can’t see anything.” The father picked her up and put her on his shoulders, so that she was higher than anyone else on the deck and was able to see everything around her. “Daddy!” she exclaimed. “I can see farther than my eyes can look.” This little girl’s statement captures the essence of dreams: the ability to see farther than your physical eyes can look–to see not just what is, but also what can be and to make it a reality. Dreams are an idea that is inspired by God in the heart of a human. 

The greatest gift God has given you is a DREAM. Throughout history, progress has been made only by people who have seen things that were not there. They had a vision of what could be. They dared to dream. If by now you are starting to feel something stir inside of you. If by now these words are beginning to resonate somewhere deep inside of you, then it’s time for you to dream again. It’s time to awaken the dream within you. 

 I want to speak with you and ask you 5 Questions. Only 5 Questions to help you begin to capture your dream. Simply email me at info@thelovelifestylecoach.com , your name, contact info, your time zone and the best time to call. Let’s start you back to dreaming again and change the world.

Did You Know...?

Girls who grow up with an unavailable, unattached or absent father is a fatherless daughter. This one missing element in a girl's life while growing up can have grave consequences when she reaches womanhood. 

Her sense of self will be tainted, her self confidence warped or non-existent, her portrait of a loving relationship may be distorted or dysfunctional and her ability to really succeed in money matters becomes an issue. In other words, she struggles in her relationship with love and her relationship with money. Because both of these are tied into her self worth and value. Many fatherless daughters can earn great money, even 6 & 7 figures, but still find themselves broke or in debt or both. She can find love, but have a difficult time maintaining harmony in the relationship. 

Her children finds it difficult to please her or she maybe over protective, smothering them. She can be DRIVEN by success because of an inner need to be the BEST...which is always admirable...but the fuel source behind it for a fatherless daughter can be dangerous. She has this empty hole that cannot be filled, always trying to be more and do more. She hears from those who love her phrases such as "no matter what I do, it's never enough." No can seem to get it right or make her happy. 

That's because being fatherless has left a hole in her soul that will never be filled until she confronts and deals with her fatherless daughter issues. She must be warned, this process is NOT a simple weekend project. It must be ongoing process until it must become second nature. 

My Fatherless Daughter Breakthrough Private Coaching program is designed to help you move beyond your daddy wounds. This process will not be easy, but it is simple and I will be there with along the way. And it will pave the road to finding inner self confidence and love for oneself, which will in turn led to the abolishment of the need for finding these things in another. 

This is one of the roads to inner freedom! Email me your name, phone and best time to contact you. info@thelovelifestylecoach.com and let's move your life forward....Much love, Angela

Are You Ready to Show Up?

Can you believe that we are getting ready for the holiday season? It feels as if we've just completed the summer. If you are like most women, you are wondering where did the time go? I've asked myself that same question. This is also the time of the year where I reflect back to see if I've accomplished the things I said that I would this year. In most cases when I do this, I discover that I didn't reach all of my goals. But I also recognize that there's still time to finish strong. Not in some hustle bustle, nose to the grind kind of way. That way of being simply does not align with the feminine energy of women. 

As women, when we go after our dreams with this kind of "take the bull by the horns" energy, we short circuit our energy field. And as a result, we are left feeling overworked, overwhelmed and in many cases overlooked. Because when your energy field is short circuited....that's like NOT showing up in life at all. And when this happens, our dreams are once again delayed. 

 Yet, one thing I've learned is that "delay does not mean denial." You truly deserve to have your dreams fulfilled and realized. You are already encoded for everything you want at your deepest level. As a divine, vibrational being, nothing can limit you. There's nothing wrong with you. 

You are not broken, you are perfect and loved just the way you are. And no matter what you are going through, it is in divine order and it's only your perception that says otherwise. It's time to get rid of our reasons and our justifications for why we show up less than our divine, magnificent and radiant selves. 

It's your time to shine! So shine my sister...show up and shine!

Oprah, Iyanla and TD Jakes Talked About It...Now Taylore Has Something to Share...

A Gentle Soul…RIP

I am sure most of you have heard about the tragedy of former Disney Star and Co-Star of Rizzoli and Isles, Lee Thompson Young. Last week this sweet young man died from a self inflicted gun shot wound. What most of you don’t know is that I started this young man in the entertainment business. As you know for over 23 years I was in the entertainment industry as an agent/manager as well as owned a performing arts center.

 

One day, this handsome young man walked into my office when he was 11 years old. He grabbed my hand, kissed it and then flipped out a business card that read “Lee Thompson Young, Actor.” At that time Lee had only done 2 local plays. But what I said to him on that day became true. I said, “I’m going to make you a STAR.”  Within a year and a half of that day, he was starring in his own show on the Disney Channel, “The Famous Jett Jackson.”

 

Over the years, this young boy has had a wonderful and successful career as an actor. But what most folks don’t know is that he was a very gentle and loving soul. Lee discovered his purpose early in life and he went after it with such ease and grace because he knew that it was his assignment. 

 

His family has asked that I help prepare his hometown memorial and I can tell you it has been both an honor and yet a painful experience. But what gives me joy and comfort is I’ve learned so much from this young man about living your dreams now.

 

While he was only 29 years old at his passing, he has done more in those short years than many people will do in 60 years. As I reflect upon his journey I  realized that he followed the three steps that I teach for success.

 

1. Spirituality- Lee had a deep, abiding relationship with God. He exhibited that divinity everywhere he went because of the love he embodied. His love for his family, his friends and all people was just incredible. He always had something good to say…never negative even when things didn’t good promising to him. He always saw God in all that he did. His spiritual life was priority for him. That’s why you never saw him do any work that didn’t reflect how he lived his life.

 

2. Strategies-Lee was always a life student. He wanted to know how to live in the present. He wanted to know how to live a deep spiritual life and he would seek out new ways of being, new skill sets and new strategies for his life.  He kept great coaches and mentors in his life to help direct and guide him through his journey.

 

3. Supporting Cast-There’s a saying that you are the sum total of the 5 people you spend your most time with. For Lee, the people he spent his most time with were brilliant and wonderful people. He made sure his supporting cast were people he could grow and expand with. He also kept close contact with his family and remained connected to them.

 

I will miss this young man and I would be lying if I said that I was not hurting,  because I am. But this is not about me, it’s about a young man who knew his purpose and had the courage to live it. My question to you is, “What about you?  Will you die with your dream inside of you, or  are you wiling to live your dream now?” Perhaps you don’t know what that dream is. If this is true, then it’s time to find out by connecting with someone who can help you discover the answers. As your Love Lifestyle Coach, I can help you do just that. If not me, then find someone because it’s time to live your dreams NOW!

What Were Your Daddy's Love Patterns?

On the topic of fatherless daughters...perhaps your dad was there...but what were his love patterns?...those patterns can have an impact on girl's life when she reaches adulthood...

These are the 5 Daddy Archetypes found in my program:

Disapproving Dad...there's nothing you could ever do to get his full approval. He always required more from you...he sets the bar high...but doesn't take the time to notice "you" instead of your accomplishments...or perhaps he wanted a boy instead...and it shows...

Impact on Daughter-- this keeps you always seeking approval and never feeling good enough...always trying to be better...you become uptight, overly ambitious and competitive.

Disabled Dad...mental/physical illness, drugs/alcohol, abusive, anger...these things will prevent him from creating a closeness with his daughter...or maybe he's a passive father...doesn't get involved...let's mom handle everything.

Impact on Daughter--this creates a lot of anger in you because of your disappointment...keeps you in a space of shame, insecurity, hiding and distrust...very difficult for you to create close intimate relationships...you even try to become someone you are not...because of the insecurity and shame...you have no real sense of identity.

Dictator Father...it's like living with a military drill sergeant, a whole lot of rules..but no real relationships...religion legalism and tight boundaries...feels like no oxygen in the home...

Impact on Daughter--you grow up to become distant and resentful. You will often times be perceived as cold, unfeeling, angry and focused only on the task at hand instead of people... disconnected from your heart space.

Distant Father...physically or emotionally...unattached and not able to form close bond with daughter...works all the time...can be in the room with you and even involved in activities...but not emotionally connected to anyone...because his focused is always on something else...or he's simply disconnected.

Impact on Daughter--you feel invisible and unworthy...you may try hard to get attention from men...even giving of yourself in ways that do not serve you because you want to be seen and validated.

Doting Father...shows excessive fondness and love for his daughter. She can do no wrong and he's always giving her money and buying her things. She has become more of trophy, something he can show off...yet he really does love her. Through his spoiling her, he has missed some valuable things...such as life lessons of consideration of others, kindness, compassion for others and generosity. He gets the love part, but missed the parent piece in the relationship.

Impact on Daughter--you begin to think that all relationships are this way. You translate gifts and letting you have your way as real love. You become selfish, self centered, spoiled, needy and incapable of seeing the other's person's needs and point of view. You become a taker in the relationship and this leads to you playing the victim in most cases. 

Fathers be sure to check your love patterns when it come to your daughters...

But the good news...it doesn't have to remain this way.....you can learn new patterns and new ways of being with your daughter that will validate her very existence! 

Oprah Winfrey Takes The Issue of Fatherless Daughters Global and Angela Wants to Continue The Conversation

Much has been written and spoken on the subject of boys growing up without their fathers and the negative impact this missing key element has on their lives as they reach adulthood. We’ve read numerous studies that offer alarming statistics of our prisons being filled with men who grew up without their fathers. There are numerous of programs, discussions and books on this alarming topic of fatherless sons.

Yet, little has been brought to the forefront of our attention when it comes to fatherless daughters. Until now!! On July 14th and July 21st, Oprah Winfrey and Iyanla Vanzant will host a 2-Part Life Class on the OWN Network entitled, “Daddyless Daughters.” The effects on a girl’s life who grows up with an unavailable, unattached or absent father can be catastrophic.

An adult woman who did not have the validation, love and support of an attentive and loving father will experience many devastating issues in life from relationships problems, money issues, career and health problems. As The Love Lifestyle Coach and author of “I’m Not That Woman…A Fatherless Daughter’s Journey to Being,” I have been speaking and coaching fatherless daughters for years through my Fatherless Daughters Breakthrough Program.

I am delighted that the OWN Network is bringing this topic onto a global platform and I had a chance to view the taping of the shows via online. We cannot solve these issues in two television shows, but now we can get the conversation started.

That’s why I am hosting a series of online and live events, starting with a FREE live event,“Fatherless Daughters Shares Their Heart Secrets…The Conversation Continues” on Tuesday, July 23rd, 7PM at The Comfort Suites Hotel, 1540 Daulton Drive, Columbia, SC. To attend this event RSVP Here…

Why They Said I Would Fail

I remember a few years ago, I was at a women’s business conference hosted my one of my coaches. When she introduced me, she said “Angela has a SOFT Niche.” What she was basically saying is that I didnt’ talk a lot about making money, getting clients, marketing or all of the stuff that your inbox gets saturated with.

I was merely teaching women how to actualize the power of self love to create success in their lives. I was doing this when “selling self love” was not popular. Fast forward to now, everyone is talking about self love, universal love, inspiration, expansion and all the “woo woo” stuff I was accused of teaching.  It’s popular because collectively, we’ve come to realize that nothing permanent can happen outside of ourselves until it happens within us.  And that love is the answer to every single question in life.

Everywhere you look business coaches are now starting to realize that this “woo woo” stuff works…that spirituality and love are the keys to unlocking real success in  your life and business. I had a coach tell me that what I was offering wasn’t tangible enough. That if I didn’t change it, I would fail. She was obviously the wrong coach for me and she was wrong period. I have literally share with thousands the principles of The Love Lifestyle Coaching System and many of them have had incredible success stories.

That’s why you need a coach who has her finger on the pulse of what’s happening long before the masses get it.  Because by the time the masses gets hold to it, you will be left behind. You want to pioneer a movement, not come in on the tail in. You need a leader who has insight and understand the times in which we now live. It’s time to stop jumping on the band wagon of the next new fad or following the masses because you will get left behind.  

When we find ourselves at a crossroad or in a crisis, to move forward, the challenge is the let go of an outmoded attitude, or idea or perception. Individually or collectively,  a shift has to take place, a tipping point is reached, then the phenomenon of “There’s nothing so powerful as an idea whose time has come, kicks in.

The time has come for LOVE to kick in. The time has come to know that everything is spiritual. Even money!  I knew it years ago when others said that I would fail if I kept trying to coach women on love…that I needed to coach them on making money.  But how could you teach money without love? The two are tied together, because how we do love is how we do money! Ha ha, the masses finally got what we always knew! I love it!

Remember, live authentically, laugh everyday and embrace love as a lifestyle. Because success in life really does begin with love!

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Why I Was Not Happy With Oprah and Iyanla

A couple months ago, Oprah Winfrey and Iyanla Vanzant did a show on fatherless sons. It was powerful and it alarmed the world of this epidemic. As I watched, I said to myself, "what about the fatherless daughters of the world." I guess she heard me...lol! Well, not really. She heard from many women, who wrote in and asked the same question. Therefore, they decided to do something on fatherless daughters as well. They are calling it "Daddyless Girls." For some reason, Ms. Vanzant seems to think there is a difference between fatherless daughters and daddyless girls. 

Not to discredit my sister, whom I have the highest love and respect for, I don't believe there is a difference. The show "Daddyless Girls" will air soon on the OWN network, so please check your local listing for dates/times. 

I watched the taping of these two shows online which will air on OWN later. It was very interesting. They did a segment on the fatherless sons first,  as a follow up. Which I loved. But when they got to the "Daddyless Girls", I was not as happy. I felt they were a little too playful with the topic. Because of the work I do, I've seen so much suffering and I too have experienced the suffering...therefore this topic is no laughing matter. 

I felt that they focused on just one type of fatherless daughter, the promiscuous one. Yes, many women who were fatherless will become promiscuous. Studies have proven this as a fact. They will make a lot of wrong choices in relationships because of their daddy wounds. But not all of us, and there are so many other variables to the saga of the fatherless daughters. 

You maybe reading this and wondering how does this effect your life? This topic effects all of us because we are trying to form friendships, business partnerships and alliances with women who were fatherless growing up. Please understand that a fatherless daughters is a woman who grew up with an absent, unavailable or unattached father. She is not just a girl whose father was not around. I have discovered that 80% of adult women are experiencing the fatherless daughter syndrome and this one key missing element is having a negative impact on their lives. ...even with daddy in the home. But what impacts one woman, impacts us all. 

This fatherless daughter issue is huge. It's causing women to suffer on many levels of their lives. Not just with relationships with men and promiscuity, but also in how we raise our children, how we behave on our jobs, how we interact with others, our relationship with money and how we see ourselves and view the world as a whole.

I am so excited that Oprah has started this conversation. I have been studying, writing, speaking and teaching on fatherless daughters for years. So it delights me to know that a conversation has started on a much larger and global level. But there must be more than simply talking. We must find solutions to a growing issue among us that is causing so many women's lives to suffer. We may not make the 6 o'clock news, but we are out here and we are many. When our women suffer, so does our world. 

While we are having this conversation, let's also find ways to heal. Over the years, I have helped hundreds of fatherless daughters to heal and move their lives forward through my breakthrough program.

I will tell you that to date: my "Fatherless Daughter Breakthrough Coaching Program" is the ONLY one of its kind that exists today. While I am delighted to know that I have the only existing coaching program specifically designed to help us breakthrough our daddy's wounds, I am also shocked to know that more people have not stepped up to do more. That is why I am going to be offering a certification to those women who would love to teach and coach The Fatherless Daughter's Breakthrough Program. You will be certified to help so many women through this program. 

As I continued to watch Oprah's taping of the show, I was able to identify why she and Iyanla were not as in depth and laughed a lot during the discussion on this topic...they too are fatherless daughters. Oprah's dad was unattached and Iyanla's was unavailable...according to their stories. They would have had to dig into their pain and reveal it on the show in order to really teach how to heal. And trust me when I say that daddy wounds are deep and painful wounds. But it's when we show our wounds, acknowledge they exist, that we can really begin to heal them.

Again, I salute and love dearly these two women for having the conversation. Now we must start the movement towards healing. If you want to become a certified facilitator of The Fatherless Daughter Breakthrough System, or you simply want to heal your own daddy wounds, I want to invite you to join me on for my upcoming Fatherless Daughter Breakthrough Coaching Program. This program is also a pre-requisite for those who want to become a certified facilitator. I am offering this program at a huge savings, so you'd better hurry and register. I have limited seats available. 

"Fatherless Daughters Group Coaching Program", starting on July 8th. 

I Didn't Want You Upset With Me

As women we tend to base our  self worth and value on what we do instead of who we are. I know first hand this to be true. I use to be a pleaser. If I thought someone was upset with me, I would do something really nice for them or I would call them on the phone to talk, just to see if I could tell from their voice if they were upset with me. I always worried whether I did enough of the right things or if I said something the wrong way to cause someone not to like me. I would feel the tension in my stomach rise in a panic, but once I discovered that everything was okay or that I did enough to earn their approval once more, I would feel the tension ease.

I know this sounds crazy coming from The Love Lifestyle Coach, but for years this was how I lived my life. Trying to be everything to everyone and never wanting to disappoint anyone. What a roller coaster ride my life had become? Always trying to gauge the situation to be sure that I did all the right things, that I did nothing wrong or ruffled anyone’s feathers. My belief was, “if I am perfect, they will love me and not leave me.” I needed everyone to like me, to be nice to me, to accept me and more importantly– to love me.   

As I began to grow, expand and seek the help of mentors who could show me the source of my insecurities, I was able to make new choices. Awareness is such a powerful thing. It allows  the hidden answers to come to light, not to make us feel shame or judge ourselves, but to give us the space for newness of life.

I knew that my life was meant to be more than this roller coaster ride.  Somehow, I knew there had to be a better way. I wanted it to be better. And it did get better.

Once the blind spots were revealed by an wonderful mentor/coach, I was able to identify the source of my sabotaging beliefs and thought system. I had my breakthrough. I also learned new ways of being and new ways of showing up in life. All because I was able to grasp hold to the truth of who I was. I didn’t have a behavior issue…I had an identity issue.

I learned that I was loved and lovable merely because I existed. There was nothing to fix, heal, or correct. I was not broken,  I was already perfect and I was already enough. I was the only one who needed to realize this. Once I learned how to align myself with who I really was and who I was born to be, my life transformed on so many levels.

In my transformed life, I now recognize that I am a magnificent, fabulous divine expression of pure, unconditional love. I am created this way…God did that! And who am I to disagree with God?  The wonderful thing about this realization, is that I also understand that YOU TOO have been given this same meaningful life.  Not only do I accept myself, I also accept everyone else. This is  where the real magic happens for all of us.  

Once we realize that we are all created from the same Source…”LOVE” and that we are all made of the same Source, “LOVE”…the magic begins. We are all connected to the same Source and we are all here for the same function…to love and be loved. I cannot hate you…because hate doesn’t exist in love. I can only love you and show up in that manner. That what love does. It’ cracks your heart wide open to give and receive love.

I am no longer a performance based person. My worth is no longer based on what I do, but in WHO I am. Whew, what a huge relief! I no longer worry about pleasing others.  I understand that love is the answer to every question and it is the antidote to fear. That being said…love is always more than enough. That makes me enough as well.  And so it is with all of us. 

Will The Real Woman Please Stand Up!

I want to talk to real women today. Women who understand hot-flashes, cottage cheese thighs, running out of tampons, extra support bras and bad hair days.  As you know, we don't all wake up in the morning looking like we just stepped out of a magazine. Some of us wake up looking like we are wearing a magazine.

While this maybe comical, it is true. It's important that you stop comparing yourself to others, to who you think look better, dress better and appear to have more than you do. And surely don't compare yourself to hollywood's celebrities that are seen on television and in the magazines. Lots of money is spent for them to look that way. Stop measuring your worth and value by whether your thighs are firm or flabby.  

If you had only one day to live, would you worry about your flabby thighs or would you want to spend that day loving your family and doing some heartfelt activity? 

Your worth and value are always based on who God says you are. It doesn't matter if you wear a size 2 or a size 24, you are still beautiful and remarkable. 

Yes, we should practice good self care by exercising and feeding our bodies the proper foods. Yes, being healthy should be a priority for  us.  Of course, we want to dress well and make a statement to the world that we have some self pride in our appearance.

But it's really what's going on inside of us that needs much more of our attention. Is there someone you need to forgive? Is there some bad attitude you need to adjust? When we focus more on what's happening within our hearts and make the necessary shifts, real beauty is then revealed.  

Living from within your heart says that are beautiful today and that makes you a "Real Woman!"

Are You a High Maintenance Woman?

I am certain that you’ve heard the term“High Maintenance Woman.”  In most cases it has been talked about in some very negative terms. Most women who are viewed as high maintenance have been frowned upon and made to appear  vain, selfish and self centered.

But I have a different opinion on this issue. I believe the most fascinating women are high maintenance. Think about this for a moment. The most beautiful homes, the most expensive cars are all high maintenance. The BEST things in life are high maintenance. Therefore, I believe it’s okay for you to be considered “high maintenance” as well.

But not in some vain kind of way. When you understand your value and your worth, you will recognize that you deserve to give yourself the needed time, effort and attention to grow and blossom. You are worth the effort.

Often times as women, we put ourselves last and on the back burner. Everyone else receives our attention and time, except us. We are  last to eat dinner, we are last to go to bed at night, we are the last to spend any extra money on ourselves.  

When we organize our lives around everyone one else, we are saying to the Universe that we are NOT worth the effort. That we are not as valuable as everyone else.  In return, this mindset shows up in our  lives as our experiences.

But as we return to our hearts and begin to hold a space  for  true self love, forgiveness and non-judgement, we will start to give ourselves the attention we deserve. When you value something, you attend to it. 

If you had an expensive dress, would throw that dress in the washer? Absolutely not! You would carefully take it to the best cleaners in town to have it cleaned. Why? Because that dress has value to you and it is a high maintenance garment. It requires extra attention, time and effort. And so it is with you.

You are valuable and you are worth the effort, time and attention. Attending to your health, your personal, spiritual expansion and growth is your highest priority.  How many times have you said no to a workshop, program, product or event that you so desperately wanted for yourself? And when you used the funds on for something else or on someone else, such as children, husband, friends, how did it really make you feel deep within? Somewhere in your heart and in your body, you felt that you had cheated yourself. This is  not the action of a woman who knows her own worth and knows her value.

I want to encourage you to commit to putting yourself first by attending to the thing that matter to you the most…YOU!  Taking care of yourself first, loving yourself first, giving to yourself first is the greatest gift you can give to your loved ones. So the next time someone ask if you are high maintenance, you answer with a  resounding “YES I AM!”  I am worth the effort!

Share below  what you are going to do today to start your high maintenance journey. 

Are You Ready to Deal With It?

On the topic of Fatherless Daughters, Dr. Richard Horowitz says it like this, ―"It leaves a hole in their soul that is extremely difficult to fill, and they carry this father hunger into adulthood until it's dealt with."

Have you truly dealt with your fatherless daughter's issues? For years, I didn't realize  I even had any issues with my father being absent from my life. I was ambitious, driven, successful and didn't think I had any ill feelings towards my father. My father had many problems of his own, including being diagnosed as schizophrenia and paranoid.

When I did find my biological father, I was married with one child. He had been institutionalized for many years by then and the man that I finally met, was sick. To say the least, there was not much of a relationship that we were able to form. I simply couldn't connect with a man who was not there mentally. His family was very protective of him and they assumed that I had showed up because I wanted money or something. But little did they know that I merely wanted a dad.

Over the years, I have met numerous of women with fatherless daughter stories. I've also met women who were not even aware that the fatherless daughter's syndrome was playing out in the lives they were currently experiencing.  I literally can talk to a women for approximately five minutes and know that she is a fatherless daughter because the symptoms speak loudly and clearly. 

One thing for sure, the patterns are the same and they don't lie. As Dr. Horowitz said, we will continue to carry this hole in our souls until we deal with it. Studies have proven that a girl who grows up with an absent, unavailable or unattached father, will be impacted on many levels once she reaches adulthood.  Your father's love patterns, whether good or bad, are having a huge impact on your life today. 

Many women are deceived into believing that because they are coping, they have broken through. But coping does not equate to victory. Your life can and will be significantly better, and more liberating when you finally deal with was lies beneath.

Are you a fatherless daughter? It's time that you deal with it!!